The Secret Poison Most Women Feed Themselves

Do you ever tell yourself that if you don’t finish absolutely
all of your duties, you don’t deserve to have fun?
Do you privately punish yourself over work left undone?

You’re not alone. I’m definitely guilty of this one too; but when
I became conscious of the problem and stopped, a new world was born!

Don’t make relaxation + fun luxuries for “another day”…

So many women tell me “I never have time for fun,”. If they’re not achieving something, then it’s not ok to kick back. If I suggest they read for fun or take time off, they tell me they didn’t “earn” it. Why should they relax? There is just too much to get done.

Guilt sets in, and revokes their right to enjoy themselves. I know you probably have your own story that fits into this scenario if you’re an activator or achiever!

Here’s the issue: you’ve hitched your freedom onto your need to prove yourself.

First off, who are you proving yourself to? Why are you removing fun and joy from the equation if  you don’t achieve your desired outcome?

What if you could flip it around?

If you are ready to try something new and change it up, then click here to tweet + claim it: @hillaryrubin I am ready for a change.

Now, try this exercise to end the poison of self-punishment for good.

First, give yourself permission to have fun. Right now.

Say this out loud: “I give myself permission to have fun.” You are the only one who can give yourself permission to do anything. Put your entire being into it. Give it 100%.

Second, list all of the activities you love doing (or want to start doing) that have taken a backseat because of your work. Mine was taking hip-hop classes!

Third, choose one of these activities to do at the beginning of every day. Then, add another one to the end of your day, and in the middle if time allows!  (I booked a healing session in the middle of my day before working with my own clients. I felt phenomenal!)

The more fun you have, the more joy you allow yourself to experience, the more prosperous and abundant you will be. Starting this way sets the tone for your life, and makes you a bigger container to receive, attract and cultivate a new sense of lightness.

Here’s what you need to do next:

You have the power to make a change right now. Are you ready to turn this around and test drive
some new advice? Or will you stay where you’re at? It’s totally up to you, sister.

If you want to welcome more fun into your life and stop punishing yourself – and I’m pretty sure you do, because you’re here reading this post – here’s what I want you to do next:

1. Plan one fun activity right now, and give yourself permission to deserve it.

2. Then, if you’re on board to put this into action (or if you  already have), tell me how it went for you in the comments below.

3. Finally, share this post with 3 of your friends who you know feed themselves this secret poison. (hint: you may want to plan some fun together.)

Lots of love, and thank you in advance for making this world a better place. Now go enjoy yourself already!!

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Written By HillaryRubin

Hillary Rubin, spiritual life and career coach, creator of Breakthrough to Coaching and The Art of Becoming a Coach training program, helps women around the world create lasting change to live a more soul-fulfilling life. She’s been featured in The Los Angeles Times, Yoga Journal and The Daily and was named one of the top 25 Women Entrepreneurs to Love in 2012 and one of the top 50 Entrepreneurs to follow in 2013 on Twitter by