Love is good food. Sex is good medicine. But is it organic?
That depends on your choices. Since I’m a big proponent of a holistic lifestyle, organically grown food and naturopathic therapies, here’s the rundown on the dirtiest cleans I know in the realms of eco-sex and eco-love.
1) Sex Toys.
The bad: Unless you buy sex toys that are made with silicone or body-safe, anodized aluminum, they are likely to contain carcinogenic phthalates. Phthalates are used to soften plastics so if you pick up a dildo and it’s squishy in your hand, or it’s one of those jelly dildos, it likely contains phthalates. Think about where it’s going–one of the most absorptive places in your body. Don’t use it. Even with a condom over it, osmosis occurs.
The good: Check out brands like Jimmyjane and Lelo. They make sex toys that are not only design-centric, but use materials that are body-safe. They employ replaceable and rechargeable motors, reducing their carbon footprint. Plus, they’re just so stylish and pretty, you can’t help but lust after them.
Case in point. These are Jimmyjane’s Little Something vibrators which happen to be gold, platinum and diamond-plated.
2) Birth Control.
The bad: The birth control pill has been deemed a class one carcinogen by the World Health Organization. Seriously. Since 2005. How did you not know this? Because we live in a pharma-cracy. Big corporate interests buy the complicity of government and physicians because women controlling their fertility for free is bad for business. It’s the same reason cigarettes are still legal even though they’ve been proven to kill people.
The good: Natural birth control. In reality, there are only about seven days during the month when a woman can get pregnant. Every individual woman and cycle is different, but, like each female mammal in the animal kingdom, a woman’s body gives her clear and obvious signals about when she is ovulating. Once you learn how to observe them, it will take you less time to check than it does to swallow a pill. You’ll retain your fertility, breasts, uterus and ovaries in the process. Not a bad deal, is it?
3) Your Bed.
The bad: Conventional mattresses are loaded with a host of toxic chemicals that off-gas constantly. For eight hours, you are breathing in a variety of carcinogens including PBDEs (banned in Europe), formaldehyde and others which have been linked to cancer, fatigue and immune system ills. Synthetic materials are prone to forming mildew which also disturbs immune function.
The good: Excellent eco-sex alternatives include natural foam made from latex, in which bacteria mildew, mold and dust mites cannot survive. Wool and organic cotton are also good options.
The bad: Viagra and Cialis-type drugs for men and synthetic hormone replacement therapy for women introduce the body to a host of other side effects and iatrogenic problems, and they mask the real issues. In men, ED (erectile dysfunction) is a symptom of other physiological, mental and emotional issues that need addressing–from lack of exercise and poor diet to whether they are happy in their lives and work.
The good: Most erectile issues in men can be rectified with natural therapies–acupuncture, herbs, neural therapy and lifestyle shifts. Since the blood vessels leading to the penis are narrower than those in most of the body, ED (erectile dysfunction) has long been considered the canary in the coal mine–a possible indicator of heart disease and an overall hardening of arteries. The penis is a great measure of physical and mental competence in a man. Look at both layers to find answers.
Women approaching menopause can take a holistic approach both in adapting to physical changes and in dealing with the transition to a new phase in life. Dr. Christiane Northrup’s book The Wisdom of Menopause illustrates how. Northrup invites women to examine the spiritual, emotional and sexual benefits from consciously navigating this life change with a “playbook” called The Secret Pleasures of Menopause.
The body is a metaphor. It will give you answers if you ask questions.
The bad: Most commercial lubricants contain everything from propylene glycol (found in anti-freeze), to DEA to parabens, all of which have links to cancer. These same ingredients injure sperm so if you are trying to get pregnant, avoid using it.
As I’ve mentioned before, I’m not a huge fan of lubricants. I suggest first looking at diet (low fat, high carb diets can decrease estrogen and effect the vaginal lining), health and emotional factors that may contribute to the body not being as welcoming as it could. Sometimes it’s simply a matter of being well-hydrated. I had a lover whose formula for marathon sex included keeping his woman’s water intake high.
The good: If you still want options, there are fantastic natural products on the market like Firefly Organics. They are petroleum, paraben and glycerin-free.
Eco-sex and eco lovin’ involves becoming conscious of the choices you make and the things you put into your body. Ensuring that you are prioritizing your sexual health is part of that and will support and boost your potential for connection and conception–when you want it.
Check out Stephanie Iris Weiss’ book: Eco-Sex: Go Green Between the Sheets and Make Your Love Life Sustainable for more ideas.
Any other suggestions for how to implement organic love and eco-sex?
Kim Anami, www.BodaciousLifeCoaching.com, is a provocateur and catalyst for deep change. Drawing on two decades of study and practice in the sexual and health realm, she has coached thousands of people over the years to lead more fulfilling and sexually abundant lives and loves. She believes a thriving sex life is a major, overlooked component to a vibrant relationship and life. Sexual energy is our super fuel, and much of her work focuses on showing people how this is true and how to infuse more sexual vitality into their lives. Kim has been featured in Flare magazine, the Georgia Straight, on Vancouver’s Breakfast Television and Urban Rush for her ideas on sophisticated sex. She writes for Playboy magazine and CrazySexyLife.com in addition to her own blog.